Friday, March 6, 2009

125 - When two people with good intentions come to a disagreement

This is a basic facet of social, interpersonal relationships that I don't understand. How the Hell does this happen? Who would be condemned to the Underworld? The one that meant his/her care less passionately? The one that gave advice or suggestions that didn't work? The one that has an inferior record of performing good deeds throughout his/her life? The one that had a slower reaction and offered help later? Or the one that took less time and effort to think of practical, acceptable solutions?

How is it that this happens? Who's to blame? ...I hate it, I hate it, I hate it.


Madame DeFarge said...

I have a bad habit of getting myself wound up by second guessing and ending up with arguments about nothing. Disagreeing doesn't necessarily remove the core of friendship or caring, but it can produce some challenging cracks. Hope all is well.

Douglas said...

I vote for the one who holds a grudge the longest. People disagree, it's a fact of life. Unless the disagreement is regarding core principles, it is meaningless in the long run and should be forgotten. If it is about principles than you should go your separate ways and avoid a lot of personal contact. But still not hold a grudge.

Nothing is all that important, really.

gaf85 said...

Michael, I can't help but wonder if you might be referring to that friendship you lost? You are a thoughtful person and that is all that really matters.

Zyem Ahmedarino said...

ohh...! completely complicated!

Robot Nine said...

For me I have pretty good interpersonal and work relationships. I'm the guy everybody gets along with. But the hardest thing in life I believe is two-way communication.
I am a bit of an entrpeneur at heart, and a loner, a homebody, a recluse. It is sometimes to my disadvantage though I am happy in my own little shell. It's just sometimes so frustrating that it becomes NOT WORTH IT to try harder.
You are talking about good things, big things, but I see so many people argue their lives away over dinner choices and bedroom wall colors.